I’m finding that the heart is a funny thing. Funny not in a ha-ha kind of way, but funny in a dang, that looks a little funny. Like Backstreet Boys creating a new album funny… Really it’s just not right.
But, how could I think anything of it otherwise? Can’t it be fulfilling? Can’t it reach mythical proportions? At least we want to assume this to be true, and why not? If we make this bigger than life, than it becomes unattainable. And who doesn’t want that which they can not attain? Quoting the immortal Backstreet Boys. From their latest song “Bye Bye Love”
Now that your finding out he is playing little games, you calling me again.
I’m assuming your first question is, “Dude, what the heck?!” Isn’t Backstreet Boys dead or something? And again, what are you doing listening to them. To which I say, good question, and I don’t have too answer, cause… just cause.
Uh hum.
Let’s regain focus, folks. No really, you can stop chuckling. You do realize that I’m still in the room right? So, back to this love. We do need love. One of the things I’ve learned, is the importance of sharing with someone, whom you express your love and compassion too, and to have them know that they are loved. Do you know why? Well I… don’t, but I can guess!
Wooohhh! is that what I think it is? Yeah, man, it's a cloud!
I believe it’s well, uh, because… uh…
Got it, you and her doing this, will create the trifecta of awesomeness. Phew, okay, “trifecta?” you ask? What’s that? You can only count two, and you can’t see what the third one is? You think I have sloppy math? Well that’s okay. I just saw a cat lick out of your bowl, and I forgot to tell you… just kidding…
[ not really ]
But really, I will prove it in just a second.
Love, is one of those interesting words. First it’s not a action word. It’s very passive.
But I Love You!
Sweet awesomeness! You love her? Really? But you didn’t tell me anything there.
No, really, I do!
Again, awesome! But, really? do you now? Why don’t you tell her? And then you go into describing this passive word with great and astounding verbiage of excellence, that makes the heaven’s ring… and all you said was… nothing.
I Love you like…
like… well unless your fancy with your words, and you passed that poetry class, your going to screw this up.
You know what’s easier?
To tell people how you love them, well, first you have to do a lot of preparation. Start being a gentlemen. By doing this you are telling the one your with, that you care for and respect them. This is a starter to love.
I had a situation happen, where I was walking with a girl, and in the road, there was… yes it really was there, a dead duck. It was sad, and I did something foolish. I didn’t block her view from this and she got a complete eyeful. Now, afterwards, she looked at me and told me I failed.
Oops.
I needed to block that, so that she didn’t have to get an eyeful. I corrected this the next time. But it’s these things that show these girls that you care about them and want them to be safe. It’s important. This rule also applies to post rain storms. You walk the closest to the road so that as your walking down the street, and someone flies past you and sprays you, she won’t get as wet, and you’ve taken a hit for her.
Once you do the traits that are gentlemen like, you pick up on other things that she likes. Loving someone isn’t about doing things that you think girls will like, but doing things that you know she likes.
Pay attention. [ yes really ]
Look for those signs, and practice your reading skills, as she will give you opportunities to read her emotions. And, don’t… I really, really mean this… Do not take that moment and tease her with it.
Bad things, very bad things.
You will loose a great deal of brownie points. And, you better be quick on the apology and correction of that, or you may loose the opportunities to have future moments with her. It will be difficult for her to open up again.
So, you ask, “What about that trifecta thing, where is this three?” Well if you noticed, I everything I talked about, there was something to it. In it, I was doing something for her. That’s right the trifecta is you, her and service.
Oh’s Noze! That’s work?
Yup, it’s work. But everything that’s worthwhile takes some work, and your relationship with this wonderful women, will grow.
So, rock on, my friend. Rock on!
