Also known as, Lists! What Are They Good For? Absolutely Nothing!
Just kidding, all the Type A personalities out there, I’m kidding…
Over at Single Mom Seeking, Rachel created a list of things that she wants in a man, and as I thought about this, I decided to answer her list, with a list of how I would apply myself to each one of these items. You can follow along with her items here
So in all of it’s sappiness, here is what I’m hoping for in a relationship:
I will offer to carry your baggage [ All types ], and you won’t tell me that “I can do it myself”
I look into your eyes, and you almost cry, because I’m not looking at you, I’m looking at the person in you.
I laugh, you laugh, and we make our stomachs hurt from laughing together.
To never let go of the hand. To offer to pick you up when you fall, and to walk hand-in-hand when we both have the strength.
The love of family. To be better because of, or in spite of your family. As long as you keep working to be better.
To cheer you on, even if you blush from it.
When I ask you to trust me… You believe it because you are asking questions, and that we both come to the conclusions together. With a openness and continual communication we know that all the questions will be answered (because trust is not about being blind, it’s about sharing in the questions).
If you can’t share in the questions and answers, then there is no reason to trust.
But at the same time I would live transparently, so that you can see my foundation and we can trust each other completely without worrying about confusion and uncertainty in our love. All while Living so openly, with honesty and integrity, creating each new layer to our own foundations.
Love is simple, it’s people who make it complicated.
Lovely! very sweet
This is really nice to read. Love your last line. Tis true. Sigh.
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Thanks Lindsey. It is sweet of you and I forgot to say something about it being simple. People can make it simple.
When people make it complicated something is wrong. Someone isn’t wanting something, or someone is hiding something.
The moment that you or the other person is scratching their heads wondering why “it’s complicated”, should be followed with “What can be removed to make it simple?”
Heh. I removed my Ex. Life is much simpler now. Wise words mister.
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This made me chuckle… wasn’t what I was thinking about when I wrote it, but it definitely can be used this way. Too funny.
Love IS simple. I think it’s the believing that the love will last and trusting that the person you love won’t hurt you is hard. I’m trying…
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Mmmm. Nicki, the best thing about trust is that you get to ask lots of questions. As each question comes up there should be an answer.
The moment the other person doesn’t want to answer is the moment something is wrong.
You just need to find someone who want to always want to answer.
I tell people that the only way to a successful relationship is to live a open and transparent life. By doing this you can not hide anything. You are reminded constantly that you are being watched. Which makes it easier to continue acting appropriately.
Anyone that I’m in a relationship with will know over time, and from me answering the questions they ask, that this openness will be the sign that I truly love them. That all I have is theirs. Including trust.
Good stuff! Have you watched The Secret? If you can envision the feeling you want to have with each of the items in your list, then immerse youself in those feelings and really feel it – you will attract those experiences into your life. (Or so the Secret goes…) The game of life and how to play it! http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/08/play-the-game-of-life/
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When you set core principles to your life and live it, everything else will be a reflection of that.
I have not seen The Secret. I’ve heard about it. And does look interesting.
I adore this: “because trust is not about being blind, it’s about sharing in the questions”
I have never heard it put this way.