Also known as, Eyes of Gold and Lips are Bold
Does anyone remember the movie Say Anything? There is a scene in the movie, where they are in a car, and it’s raining. He is lying next to her. He becomes noticeably shaky, and she cuddles closer and asks if he is cold. His answer?
“No. I’m not cold.”
He was shaky because he was in love with her. He knew it and it made him shaky.
Try pulling this off with an iPod... Yeah...
For some reason I’ve held onto this scene [ And the movie in general ]. I’ve always wanted to be with the one person who made me all shaky. Who if I was close too, would ask me, Are you cold? To which I would say,
“No. I’m not cold.”
I’ve been pondering kissing again lately. It’s one of those that I actually find difficult. It has been used as a manipulative tool. And was fake. But, I’m starting to think about kissing again, as I’ve been wanting to imagine what it would feel like to be in love with someone where I would kiss her, and it would be passionate. I’ve been told that I’m a great kisser. [ This is something that I just don't know about ]
Kissing, has been one of those things that I’ve been holding close to my chest, as I don’t want to get hurt with it. I don’t want to be a great kisser to just anyone. [ I have my illusions of grandeur! ]
Actually one of the things that I worry about, is that I just don’t know how I’m going to feel when it happens. Will I hold their cheeks and touch their shoulders? Will I stand farther away, or will I come in close. I just don’t know…
See I was married when I was 19. My dating experience is slim to none. And, before I was married, I only dated in high school. I just don’t know how to deal with this thought that’s been growing in my mind. How the heck do I know if I’m any good?
What if… I’m like a high schooler, and I act all silly stupid… [ I'm hoping that if I do look silly, that it looks cute... cross fingers ]. I’m kind of doubting this, but I’ve been walking around with butterflies at thinking about dating again and thoughts of being kissed.
Are butterflies suppose to feel crazy stupid?
~sigh~
I am just reminded where I originally got my views of “guys” vs “men”. Let me pass along this little tidbit from a great movie.
Say Anything
D.C.: Lloyd, why do you have to be like this?
Lloyd Dobler: ‘Cause I’m a guy. I have pride.
Corey Flood: You’re not a guy.
Lloyd Dobler: I am.
Corey Flood: No. The world is full of guys. Be a man. Don’t be a guy.
it takes two to kiss, just like dancing. two make it an alluring, passionate, everlasting, dorky, magnificent… memory.
Hi ! Found you from Dad’s House. Your post made me giggle bec. I had watched the bachelor this week and that one woman…what’s her name ? Michelle? ….wanted to kiss the bachelor so badly she forced herself on him and it did not go over well. Then another woman was teasing him and wating a kiss then setting a limit. Both we given the boot. This Bachelor has guts…
My thought is this: When you feel such that you want to kiss a woman…you will be turned on and you will do it without thinking and worrying and wondering…and you will be good!
Cece
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Ah yes… two extremes. My goal (crap I’ve planned this out too much) is to just take it slow, and wait to feel for the moment.
That’s all I got…
Yes, butterflies are supposed to feel crazy stupid!! Sounds like you’re feeling just like the rest of us feel when we are dating or thinking about jumping back in. I have a love/hate relationship with dating… I love hate those butterflies because sometimes they are misleading. Either way, it’s magical while it lasts- enjoy it… and get out there!
Above all DON”T ever ask if you can kiss her. That is a definite no-no. Nothing is worse that sitting there and thinking it is going to happen and then he ASKS may I kiss you. “Nope – should have just done it buddy. The moment is gone.”
Haha… man, if I was confident that the moment was right, I was just going to do it. Ask? That even felt lame for me.
I’ve been back in the dating world for two years after divorcing the man I kissed for the previous ten. I was terrified the first time a new man planted one on me (and it was not a good re-immersion into dating…oy). Over time and after very happily kissing (many?) more men, it has become a lovely way to connect, reconnect, and just…see.
I believe that the way a person kisses reveals a great deal about who they are. It sounds big, yes. But it is big. How you open yourself to someone in those quiet moments is intimate, vulnerable, and revealing. And so, this is your chance to see who someone is and for them to really feel you. What a gift.
And if it doesn’t work out…well, then it is a lot easier to walk away after five minutes of smooching than many other intimacies. Right? These little steps are good, important, delicious. I vote for you to embrace them.
Those little steps are critical… not too fast, not too slow.
I think a kiss, is a good way to see if there is the spark. It’s the safe spark. You can see if the chemistry works without diving into other intimacies as you said.
Awesome. I hope that you continue to comment on other posts.