Also known as, These Are The Last Words I will Say Tonight
When I was Nineteen, I was about to go on a journey. And, before I started my father pulls me aside. And he says…
Travis, you will be a father now. You won’t get much help. You will need to take care of your family.
Now, this always seemed obvious to me. I knew that as a father I would need to take care of my family. But, this was the last reminder I got like this, before I was married. it was an aculmination of all that he taught rolled up one final statement.
Travis you will be a father.
Only recently has this really hit home. [ Kinda funny now that I've gotten as far as I have ]
I find peace in my father’s words. He has always been my hero, as much as my grandfather was my hero. These men, have dictated the direction of their families, and you can see it in my siblings, cousins, and aunts and uncles.
Fatherhood, right along with motherhood, are the two most powerful roles a couple will face. These define your children. Your children’s children. and will leave a legacy that is far greater than you ever imagined.
Many times as parents we forget… we forget the simple thing. That, we are responsible for many generations to come. How they will believe, how they will see themselves and how they return their love to their own parents.
My goal is to live a mighty life. One of my father. One of my father’s father.
I’ve placed these men on pedestals. [ I know... that's a dangerous place to put them. ] They have not failed me. The mistakes they make are that of simple errors. But never did they fail in the quick apology or the quickness to forgive. And it is in these moments that told me what kind of men they really were.
No man is faultless. But we can push forward to become better. We can lead our lives to perfection. And, I see within my father, mother, and grandfathers and grandmothers, people of great stature.
And it is you that I will become. I will be my father’s son.
Being a parent comes with a HUGE responsibility. It’s amazing to me how little some care about the impact they have in their child’s life and the impression they leave on their little souls. I’m sure you will do your son justice as your father has done for you.
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it is surprising how we at times get caught up in selfishness and forget, that this selfishness will have a direct impact on our children.
It’s fun to think that we parents have so much impact on our children and their children. We set the course for our future generations. And the thing is, what we think we are doing right today, we might wake up in ten years and say “oh, shit. I could have been doing ‘that’ instead!” i.e. no one is perfect, no matter how hard we try. All we can do is our best in the moment. Fun stuff!
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Being a parent is hard, overwhelming work. I think that if I hard REALLY realized that before having children it would have scared me off. I think that people who claim to know what they are doing and to have all the answers are delusional.
Its nice you have such great people to look to for what good parenting and just plain goodness is. Some of us are doing are best after having been raised by drug addicts, alcoholics, and con artists.
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Hmmm. Parenting. I have a love/hate relationship with being one. I love the kids, the awe and wonder over their accomplishments, the complete disbelief that I had anything to do with two beings who are so incredibly amazing, the joy in their successes. At the same time, I hate the feelings of inadequacy, the wishing I had more to offer the, the second guessing my decisions, and the fear of utterly and completely failing them at some point in time. Still, I wouldn’t trade this experience for anything.
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