Also known as, What Ya Got Is Hard To Find.
You know, it seems that good men are hard to find. Why is that? I mean really? How often do we see men, being selfish, motivated for their own personal cause. It seems to be a little too often.
It’ seems like an odd thing, as guys want money and power, and women want those guys with that money, and those that have the power.
Now this of course has varying degrees. I think it’s all founded in the desire for security… and then each level of security that is met, becomes the new standard… which means you can only go higher right? if your in an environment where you see 100,000 income, and live by that standard, then it becomes difficult to go to 50,000.
But… if you live in that 100,000 dollar fish bowl, you want to have what those in the 200,000 have.
[ Ah yes... the fishbowl affect ]
This morning, I woke up to a dream… it was odd. I went on a vacation to beach that I’ve never been too, and during this time, I surfed and had a great deal of fun. Somewhere in the midst of this dream, I skateboarded [ Haven't done that in... years?! ]. I was on a half pipe and I landed wrong, and completely shattered the board. I slid down to the center on my knee pads and grab the board. Which miraculously was just dented when I picked it up. [ My dream, my rules 
]
So I went to the board shop, looked around and said, “I want to buy this place and this is where I’m going live.”
[ And then I woke up ]
I spent all of about 10 minutes fantasizing what it would be like to live on the beach and just make enough to survive. My cellphone went off and I saw a comment posted on another blog, that talked about how this guy was getting dumped left and right, because he was happy and content with his lifestyle and the women wanted him to be more wealthy. [ And right then my dream went p00f.. odd timing really ]
So I gathered my things and a trudged off to another day of work, in a foggy world with a light drizzle. [ I felt like I was in Costa Rica, but with a chill ]
Well I’m nothing if not honest Travis… so yeah, I do want a guy who is successful and has money- but not for the reasons you think. You see, I’ve been burned before. I’ve dated guys (one in particular) who couldn’t keep a steady job and therefore never had a steady paycheck. As a result of that, all the weight was put on me to be the stable income and the responsible adult. So to me, a man who earns a decent living is a man who is capable of being responsible, and the fact of the matter is: Life costs money, and I’m a much nicer person when I’m not worrying about how to cover the bills at the end of the month.
There’s also another aspect to this, and that is my own income. I make an okay salary for someone in their mid-twenties, and I typically date older men. So, do I want to date a man who’s had more time to make something of himself and has accomplished less than I have? No. I want a man who is equally or more ambitious than I am. My ambitions are important to me, and I wouldn’t be compatible with someone who was chillaxin’ at 7/11 or still in meaningless jobs at 30.
And lastly, of course I like my “things”, but I’m perfectly okay buying them for myself. It is nice though to have someone on the same level as me who can afford to do things with me. If I want to go on a vacation or to a concert etc. and my significant other is constantly too broke to go out with me- that’s going to hold me back after a while.
A guy doesn’t have to have $200,000 or even $100,000… but it’d be nice if we were at least equals. Call me old fashioned!
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Maybe this is my problem. I’ve never given one thought to the money a guy makes or what he does. That could be the reason I always end up dating jobless addicts. Something to think about, I guess.
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